Disconnect from those who are not ready to love you
"Disconnecting from those who are not ready to love you is the most difficult thing you will have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important."
It is not an attitude of pride or arrogance, but of congruence. You will continue to love them, but with another perspective, from another level of understanding and awareness.
Disconnecting yourself from those who are not ready to love you is the most difficult thing you will have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important. Stop arguing with those who don't want to change. Stop seeing you with those who are indifferent to your presence. Stop giving your love and energy to those who are not ready to love you.
Your primary instinct drives you to do everything you can to earn the gratitude of as many as you can, but that is also the impulse that will steal your time, your energy and your honesty.
When you begin to show yourself completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be prepared to meet you. That does not mean you have to deny who you are. It means you have to get away from people who are not prepared to love you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or easily ignored by the people you spend most of your time with, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.
The truth is that you are not made for everyone or everyone is not made for you. That is what makes the encounter with the few people with whom you have a friendship or a genuine relationship something so special: you will know how precious that is because you have experienced what is not.
But the more time you spend trying to force someone to love you when that someone is not able to do it, the more you will be depriving yourself of that same connection. They are waiting for you. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them are going to meet you because their vibration is akin to yours.
However, the longer you stay immersed in the familiarity of people who use you as a cushion, as a second option, to do therapy with you in order to try to balance their emotional state, etc., the longer you will stay away from the community you want to belong to.
If you stop appearing, you may be less loved. They may forget you completely. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship ends. If you stop sending text messages, your phone may remain inactive for days and weeks. Maybe if you stop loving someone, the alleged love between you dissolves. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship. It means that the only thing that sustained that relationship was the energy that you and only you put into it. And that is not love, that is attachment.
The most precious and important thing you have in your life is your energy. It is not your time that is limited, it is your energy. What you give each day is what will create more and more in your life. To what you dedicate time, that will be what will define your existence.
When you realize that, you will begin to understand why you are so anxious when you are with people who do not contribute anything to you and in jobs or places or cities that you neither like nor agree with. You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven where only people who know how to attend you, listen to you and connect with you are allowed in.
You are not responsible for saving people or convincing them that they want to be saved. It is not your job to intrude into the lives of others and give them yours. And that happens little by little, moment by moment, because you sympathize with them, because you feel bad, because you "should", because you are obligated, because, deep down, you are afraid that you will not return the favor.
It is up to you to realize that you are the master or the mistress of your destiny and that you are only accepting the love you think you deserve. Aim to deserve a real friendship, a true commitment and a complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then, wait in silence for a few moments and you'll see how soon everything will begin to change.
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